my first pride, part 1:

Hello everyone!

Today is a wintry, damp Saturday. I just handed in my match rankings, and my patient (a generally nice but older-than-usual racehorse) tried to slam me into the wall when I pulled his catheter this morning.  He is a fine example of the thing that happens when you inject a horse with great frequency: the horse assumes that every time a person touches his neck, it will involve a needle. 

However, today I want to tell you about my first pride parade. PRIIIIDE! 

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Pride is great.  In fact, pride is so fantastic that I must resort to an elaborate analogy to explain its awesomeness:
Imagine that you’re in college (won’t take much imagining for some of you). Finals time is approaching. You decided to take an extra class this term for some reason, and you are currently regarding your last-semester self with some potent rage.  Your classes have been unreasonably challenging, and your level of burnout is truly epic.

The Friday before finals week begins, you get e-mails from three of your professors. They all say much the same thing – they’ve been very impressed with the work ethic put forward by the class this term, and as a special treat they’ve each decided to cancel their final exams. So now you only have two finals: a paper that you’ve all but finished (look how prepared you are), and an interpretive dance performance for that strange comparative dramatics class. You smile. You go out for a cup of hot chocolate to celebrate, which the barista at the coffee shop gives to you for free. Then you find ten dollars.

That is how excellent Pride is. Actually, it might be better.

I vaguely wandered through the Pride festival a couple of times during my first years in college, but since Northampton Pride happens in early May, ALL THE FINALS are always happening the week after Pride weekend. I engaged in a certain amount of internal scolding about how I “really should be studying”, and allowed myself a quick stroll through the tents before returning to my desk. This is how I missed out on Pride (mostly) until my senior year.

During my last semester of senior year, I was having rather a good time. I had been accepted to vet school, and I was finishing my degree credit/ vet school prerequisite requirements in a pretty gentle manner. I was riding lots of horses, dating lots of ladies (cough), and also randomly taking an EMT class off-campus.

Pride weekend arrived. I was psyched. I was in a brief lull between ladies, and I had prepared myself for a weekend of wild adventure.  Alas, having never attended a Pride before, I actually had no idea what that meant. No matter - when in doubt, forge boldly ahead!

The first event on the lineup was the Friday night Dyke dance. The Dyke dance occurred in the event room of a defunct railroad-station side restaurant overlooking a bike path. When I arrived, there were piles of leather jackets in the entryway and a trail of glitter leading to the bathroom. I unbuttoned my jacket, straightened my flowered dress, and paid my $5 admission. 

You guys, it was intense. There were butches in Oxfords and ties lined up at the bar while their femmes twirled in a group on the makeshift dance floor. Rainbow streamers and twinkling disco balls hung from the ceiling. Balloons gently bounced around tables loaded with cheese cubes and pretzels.  A couple of shyish ladies wearing tucked-in tee shirts and jeans leaned carefully against a wall, watching the dance floor with hungry eyes. 

Since I love to dance*, I planted myself amongst a group of ladies on the floor. They graciously accommodated me, and then watched with some amusement when I was double-teamed by a couple of butches. One was a tall, burly, silver-haired gym teacher-like woman with a striking resemblance to Jim Carrey. Later, I found out that she was actually a high school field hockey/soccer/lacrosse referee. The other had golden-grey hair and twinkly eyes. First they sandwiched me between them, then the referee swung me around and we dirty danced while she crushed my knee with her thighs.

I danced with everyone. I danced with lithe, gym-going butches, wild and dirty femmes, teachers, chiropractors, androgynous bois and shy architects.
I slipped away to gulp a glass of water every now and again. By the time it was over, my knees ached as I walked and my right high heel clicked on the pavement.

*This is an understatement that is hilarious in its magnitude. I will spend the entirety of a dance either dancing wildly or boycotting the bad songs by sitting pointedly at an adjacent table.